it isn't gonna be good

hahahah true. But if I wrote it condensed, it'd sound spiteful and stupid

The bad part: socially, less attention is paid to a guy than a girl on such events. The good part: you avoid all the bad attention. The isolation hurts, but given a conscious consistent effort to build a network of people by taking part in social situations, a guy actually develops a lot more of a rounded-out social life.

It is true we inevitably feel unwanted from this at our lowest, but it also means when we are willing to properly reflect on the sort of things we want to make a part of our lives and act upon it there are fewer obstacles. If you become selective and focus on the people with a positive impact on your life, it isn't difficult to make your weekends and free time full, but it takes years, and most of all a desire to be surrounded by people who care for you and that you care for.

I'm not a ***ing guru, that's just a fact. We will also get bad attention but a lot less, meaning we can more easily focus on the things we want. The issue is finding the emotional space and the tools that are not given to us. A lot of that comes from awareness and thinking about one's desired emotional state.

In short: this is p****archy. I know that word is not appreciated by anyone on a meme website, but it is. The division of roles, the different treatment. Patriarchy is not about rich men running everything, it's about roles, socialization, and I think it's the root cause to a lot of our suffering, because we have to be "strong", not show weakness, and since we're basically indirectly told we shouldn't ask for help due to the lack of good role models in our lives we end up bottling it up and slowly sinking lower and lower.

I'm writing this as a guy who ended up hating his emotional situation, who realized the same emotional freedoms were not afforded to me as women, and who wondered why I was not happy. After a long journey that certainly isn't over, I realized the media I was exposed to, the people that surrounded me, they all informed this way of behaving - of not reaching out, of not being vulnerable to that point with someone. I even told myself I was better off without people for a while since I was stronger alone - it doesn't get much clearer than that.

And I know this is a stupid post on a stupid meme site. But looking back, seeing all the emptiness present in a lot of guys like myself I want to say that there is hope, and ask them that, for their own sake, they take the time to care for their emotional health. I suggest starting with meeting more people through your passions or activities you enjoy, like sports or cosplay conventions. Participating in something you're passionate about is the best point to begin, it will lead you to people you have something in common with and let you develop connections. After that, you can branch out and then refocus, keeping the good people you meet within your circle until finally you have the friends you can hang out every weekend with.

And maybe this is something that will be read and ignored, maybe saved as an "I'll do it later", but I wanted to write it out for that one person who maybe needs one last push to actually go to that event, or start playing that sport. I will not deceive you: it will not be all positives, but it will let you get to a situation you can emotionally sustain, that will be healthy for you, instead of keeping up a cycle of self-murder.

For those interested in looking at the ways patriarchy alienated us from ourselves, I recommend Bell Hook's "The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity and Love". The title is quite indicative of the contents, and I know many will dismiss it as a feminist reading, but I would recommend that book to anyone, even those who aren't feminists. There are things we keep doing that hurt us, not anyone else, and a lot of those behaviors are in that book.

Why did I write this? Because I hate it. I see all this pain, all these memes made to just say haha literally me crying emoji on the internet. I feel the pain all of us feel, and I wish I could do something to make it go away, but I know in the end all I can really do is write a stupid comment hoping someone will read it, think about it, and it will make them try to feel better. Because I don't give a shit if patriarchy becomes accepted by you, but I care if you stop hurting or not. Just cause. Cause I hurt and I don't want others to hurt like I did.

no ***ing way lol that has to be a joke

EDIT: yep this is it, our world is ***ed.

man I can't even tell what is AI and what is real anymore, that is how ***ing absurd the political discourse has gotten

man *** the other candidate

hahahaha wtf that's actually a pretty funny one

Do let us know how it goes. No but seriously, what have we come to.

does anyone have the original sauce? This seems like a cool ass dude.

We are all horny. Government mandated goth gf for the horny disease!