Yes ik asking for a bit of self sacrifice from the guy. That would make him less of an egoist and harsh. And it's a messy situation it's hard to handle it perfectly. People will hurt, just try to minimize it for everybody
Yeah sorry, she probably asked to be raped. Of course, how could I be so stupid. Next time I cross the street and a car hits me I'll remember that I shouldn't have asked to be run over.
What you say here is pretty fair I think. Sorry to hear what happened to you. Never had an experience with a toxic/abusive relationship, so I'm quite lucky in that regard. That just changes my knee jerk reaction and I can see where you are coming from. I can imagine that it's hard to trust someone again and make yourself vulnerable. The only thing I would still plead for is not to generalise it to all women and assume their intentions. What you say, letting her crash and make her feel safe and then break up, is so much better than what OP did and many people in the comments suggest. So thanks for sharing.
Equating being empathetic to simping and white knight behaviour doesn't seem healthy to me. Getting lied to and being cheated on is heinous, but the girl just went through a traumatic event. You probably loved her if you stuck around for 7 months. Wouldn't you feel any compassion for her?
Yes she lied, and went to a party with some guys (bad judgment not a crime). She isn't ghosting (probably still knocked out/in shock) and why is it certain she wanted to cheat? Your sexism is showing, buddy. It's cringe. If you think this would warrant *** behaviour instead of a more courteous break-up, we're done talking. You'll probably stick to your woman-hating gun. Have fun with that.
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