I think it's the getting a gf at all that's the issue, not the crazy part

Teaming up with backseat to know the exact location

I'm not here to be effective, I'm here to finally have a purpose in life

A bit late, I am very aware, it's a tough life. As you said, showing up to the non-mandatory things are how connections are made. Everyone I know won't mind not spending money on an activity, as long as it's something you do together.
Things I've done with friends, people to meet, acquantences etc are; going for walks, visiting free musea, as you mentioned the library, there are boardgame groups that organize weekly or biweekly and the like, some cost money to join (if via a store) others are just free and people looking for others.

I know this might be unsollicited advice, but this is also a place to share and support. You've been around for a long ass time, and it pains me to see you like this although you might not know who I am. I'm happy slav1 reached out to you, you deserve to know you ain't alone.

It's a bit like going to the zoo tbh

As someone who has dated a looney, and worked with them (not at the same time, and no backseat, I did not pick up any of the ones I worked with in case you read this comment), both my personal and professional advice is to... just not

"I know"

I dread to imagine how racist I can become then

He means he'll dox you if you don't become friends with him

I remember the time when you doxxed someone, good times